When you hear yourself saying, “I am so stressed”, or you feel literally uptight — that is, parts of your body are tense — first, breathe. Often when I hear or even speak the word “breathe”, I find I am holding my breath. Next, a phrase that might come to mind is: “The heart remains a child”. That phrase induces compassion. Rather than: “How could I be so stupid?” or “I/he/she should know better by now!” — “The heart remains a child”. How would you like yourself to treat a child? How would you have liked to be treated as a child?
As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I often see couples and individuals who are seeking help to get out from under the weight of emotions unleashed by love lost, a relationship in trouble, or by what seems like an inability to find love in the first place. Regardless of sophistication, professional achievement, and education, people remain unable to manifest the relationship of their dreams, or are overwhelmed by the painful feelings of love lost and loneliness.
Therapy can help you learn to live better according to your own values with more comfortably balanced emotions. A broken heart is an open heart. And from that open place where “the heart remains a child”, we can start again with love and compassion for our selves and each other.
*The Heart Remains A Child is a song title from The Walking Wounded, an album released in 1996 by the group, Everything but the Girl.