For 27 years I swam every day, first a mile, then ½ a mile. I plotted and schemed to fit my swim in to my schedule. Then one day many years ago, as I sat on the edge of the pool not wanting to go in I thought, “I have exercised almost every day of my life and a huge percentage of the time I have had this conversation going on in my head, something like: “I don’t feel like (in this case) swimming. This is taking too much time. I’m too tired,” and numerous other rationalizations. Then, I thought, “But how silly is this thinking? I know I’m going to swim. Well, I’ll just get in and if I don’t like it I can get out.” There were times that I conned myself for a whole mile. But I always swam and always felt better, even great, mentally and physically.
Summary of faulty connection repair:
- I am thinking negative thoughts, which are causing negative feelings.
- The programmed mind/body sense ultimately reminds me that I always feel good afterwards.
- Having become conscious of the mind body process, I can delete the negative section, the to do or not to do thoughts, and the negative feelings.
- Now the whole experience is mostly happy and my life is enriched.
As a therapist, I am helping people expose problematic wiring. Together we examine the short-circuiting, and rewire in a way that lights you up.
- You become conscious of problematic thoughts and accompanying feelings.
- Develop clarity about the distinctions between thoughts and feelings.
- Re-pair thoughts and feelings according to what you would like to have happen.
- The result is more effective, empowering and enriched relationships.
It’s not the thought, but the thought + feeling that counts.